On Behalf of All Survivors: An Open Letter to Hassan Campbell

Jul 1

Telling your audience that you must get paid to talk about your abuser is a slap in the face to all survivors

I heard about your story back in 2017 and I listened to all the struggles that you went through and I could relate so much to the pain that you experienced from PTSD to suicidal ideations feeling ashamed to come out and tell your story. I was truly inspired that you found the strength to be open and honest and speak your truth and let me just say I believe you and I’m so sorry about what happened to you. Dealing with this type of trauma can send anyone off the deep end. It’s hard for all survivors to come to terms with what happened and the fact that you as a male came forward was something unheard of in the hip hop industry. So, I commend you for that.

I became an avid supporter of your channel, however over time I saw you go from victim/survivor to someone that would disrespect anyone that did not agree with you, and you would go on your page and humiliate people over the smallest things. You would disrespect people’s children and as far as I am concerned kids are off limit when it comes to adult issues. I get that people were coming for you and you felt the need to defend yourself in certain situations, but you have gone too far.

As a survivor of child sexual abuse, the things that you have said on the internet are unbelievable. The saying goes hurt people hurt people but that’s not always the case nor is it necessary. This is not a letter to bash you but to get you to see that it’s ok to seek therapy so that you may start the journey of healing yourself so that you can be a better person for yourself and your family.

Calling women out of their names is totally unacceptable and I’m sure you would not want the people that you love to have to deal with that kind of abuse. None of us are perfect but we do know right from wrong. Every one that comes at you does not need a response, it takes up way too much energy. Instead, focus on the people that have supported you and have gone out of their way to show you love. You never turn your back on someone because they don’t necessarily agree with everything you say. People are entitled to their own views but if you would just keep the focus on what’s important things might be different for you.

As I said healing is so important. I know how it feels to wake up in a cold sweat, anxiety, and feeling worthless, not able to trust people because the ones you trusted to protect you violated that trust and robbed you of your innocence. no, it wasn’t your fault as a child, but it is our responsibility to take care of our mental health as adults. This process of recovery is life long and it has lots of ups and downs and yes it is a painful process to go through but if you take one step at a time you might find that there is an elevation in your life and you can accomplish so much good in your life and for survivors everywhere.

I’m not saying that you need to be the spokesperson for survivors but if you are going to put your truth out there do it with humility and integrity. You will find peace in that but hurting people in the process is not ok. I’m sure that your tough exterior is a part of you protecting yourself nobody is hard all day and I’m not judging it’s just that I can relate because mines was a defense mechanism to protect myself from being hurt even as an adult. I’m working on myself as I write you this letter.

Our story is millions of other survivors’ story and it’s bad enough that society tells us to get over being assaulted as a kid and demonize us especially when it’s someone that they look up to. The Child Victims Act was put in place so that we can get some form of justice it is not a joke and we take it very seriously.

You have a lot of people that are young supporters so please set a good example to the best of your abilities. We have all worked hard to get this law passed and although there is so much more work that needs to be done this is a step in the right direction and we don’t want to be looked at as a joke.

I’m happy about your success but with it comes responsibility. We cannot be gangsters at our age because we are trying to make a difference and break the generational toxicity and that starts within ourselves. When we don’t seek the healing that we need we stay the same age we were when we were abused emotionally and that is a recipe for disaster.

We want survivors and children to find the strength to come forward and speak their truth. Expose these sick predators and hold them accountable in the court of law however we can get justice. Money won’t heal you. I know I tried buying things taking trips, bucket lists, etc. instant gratification lasts just a moment and you still have to deal with yourself at the end of the day. You cannot hide from it because it catches up to you in all aspects of your life! I’m telling you this because I’ve experienced it and you lose a lot of people that you care about in the process and the loneliness kicks in.

I challenge you to have an open mind and take some time to reflect on these issues. Survivors should never go against one another but support each other because we can change the world to make it better for future generations as some of our elders have paved the way for us so we must continue this journey with integrity.

Respectfully,

Fallyn Black